With the start of fall school is fully in session, fall sports seasons are half way through, and winter season tryouts are not that far off. In October academic demands go up as teachers are done with review and the honeymoon is over. This is a stressful time of year, anxiety is up, and confidence can be tested in a multitude of ways.
Given the pre-existing heightened anxiety level it is we need to be taking care of ourselves at times, so if something goes wrong such as an injury (or any negative life event) we are ready. Many injuries I see are quite common including concussions, ligament tears, and pulled muscles just to name a few. Anything that becomes a new stressor can lead to anxiety, depressions, self-esteem struggles, school struggles, and even social or family conflicts. From there a nasty cycle can start.
However, should an injury (or any negative life event) occur there are things you can do to mitigate the negative effects and help a person rebound as quickly as possible. Below are a number of recommendations (in no particular order) of what to do should you face this challenge this year.
1. Injuries can really impact school functioning. It is hard to focus if you are in pain, you might fall behind if you miss days due to injury or doctor appointments, even walking around school can be a burden. Given these possibilities, it is important for parents to really communicate with the school with what is going on, and ask for any supports that may be necessary for your student to stay on task. This may mean setting up a 504 Plan, including one that supports both academic and physical needs to make school functioning as consistent, predictable, and supportive as possible.
2. Speaking of communication and plans the same must be true with the coach of the team. Coaches can be impatient and want their players back, and at the same time, most players, particularly high school and college athletes want to be on the field ASAP. This is when communication can occur because of these competing needs, which can only contribute to further injury and more missed time. Parents and players really need to let coaches know what the recovery plan, as well as how they can remain as involved with the team as possible. Being part of the team is essential to protective a person's mental health.
3. As seen in other blogs, communication with doctors is needed. Uncertainty with what is going on with an athlete's body, why they must do a certain rehab routine, or what are appropriate recovery expectations can lead to anxiety. I encourage all clients (and family) to ask questions, be honest, and communicate call feelings and uncertainties to these professionals. Parents, you may need to support your child as it is often hard for even a teenager to do this, but it will be reassuring to him or her that you have their back.
4. After talking to the doctor, keep as much communication open between family members on how everyone is feeling about the impact of the injury on each of their emotions. There may be disagreements about the process and everyone may have conflicting feelings. Really listen to each other. Parents validate how your child may be feeling even if you disagree with - do not minimize their emotions, frustrations, and goals, but at same time help them have rational goals for recovery.
5. As much as parents validate, they sometimes need to still play the parent. For example, many concussion recovery recommendations include as little technology as possible. These days telling a teenager to put down the phone can lead to big conflict. However, teenagers are not always understanding the bigger reasons to why they have the limits placed on them. They just do not get it, and at those times, sometimes the parent just needs to do what has been done even when the teenager gets angry.
6. That being said - teenagers cut your parents (and doctors) some slack, Hopefully you have communicated and understand why you have the recovery plan you do, and recognize everyone had your best intentions at heart. Sometimes you just have to go with it.
7. Also as much as you may be frustrated, anxious, doubting the future, it is important for you the teenager to stick to school plan. Ask for help, take in the support, communicate with teachers, and work n routine. Routines help people manage anxiety and stress, and takes away the uncertainty of the future.
8. For athletes or students this is a time to find other outlets, hobbies, activities, or distractors. Any of these can be used as stress and anxiety management.
9. It is hard to keep contact with teammates and friends while recovering from an injury (any life significant life stressor). It is common for everyone to be there for you at the start, but with time and just their own day to day life, friends or teammates can often unintentionally disappear. Given that it is important to be active in seeking out the social support, get out of the house, and be with people. Social support is one of most important, if not the most important factor in mitigating the negative effects of an injury on a person.
10. When all else fails, tell yourself to just keep going. Yes it is a challenges, yes you may feel bad, allow yourself to feel all the emotions of the grief process, but keep moving and the rest will take care of itself.
As you can see injuries can effect academic, social, and family functioning in many different ways. Sadness, anxiety, and frustrations can be a few of the main emotions that a person can experience. Hopefully, this school year and sports season goes smoothly and positively, but should something negative happen, following many of these tips can really reduce the negative consequences on a person's self-esteem and confidence.